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Comment on Sometimes Punishment is the Problem by Kristi

Kristi — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 19:05:38 +0000

I think it can be so difficult to do, but it is so important to just listen and ask questions instead of reacting strongly or punishing when these issues come up. When my sister was in highschool, she was grounded for a month because she rode on a friend’s
mo-ped and then invited friends into our house when my parents were not home. My sister had never done anything wrong before and was devastated by the punishment. She truly had suicidal thoughts and hated herself for being so “bad”. My mother still talks about how she wishes she would have just sat down with Karin to discuss her own personal disappointment in Karin, the peer pressure Karin must have experienced, and what Karin could do next time instead of punishing her.

Comment on “My Child Has a Lot of Anger in Him” by Kristi

Kristi — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 18:51:19 +0000

This helps me feel like I am “on-track” somewhat with handling my 5 year old daughter’s emotional outbursts. We encourage her to stay calm and talk to an adult instead of stomping away from a party because she has lost a game. The hardest part for me is definately staying calm in the misdt of her bad behavior. If there is an audience present during her “melt down” I can become very worried about how other people might view my parenting. I am a social worker as well and while I think this can be helpful at times, I also feel like friends and family are watching closely at how I handle bad behavior or maybe even wonder why I can’t mange her better since I “should” know what to do.

Comment on Should Your Children Consider Themselves Important? by Kristi

Kristi — Fri, 06 Aug 2010 18:42:29 +0000

When I first read this I was a bit shocked and thought, “of course we want our children to feel important”! But after thinking back to a niece’s soccer game where the parents were yelling, “Great job!”, “Way to go!”, “Fantastic!” at every kick or turn, I thought this has a point. We have swung too far the other way from how our grandparents were raised. While I think it is good that children’s feelings are valued and that they are encouraged to think and speak, we often overdo our praise in an attempt to help them feel good. I imagine this desensitizes children to feeling good about times when they have truly made an accomplishment. I look forward to hearing more. Thanks, Dennis!

Comment on Should Your Children Consider Themselves Important? by Bill Frederick

Bill Frederick — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 01:16:53 +0000

Hi Denny,
“Are you important?”is an interesting question that had not occurred to me. I hope you will say more about the “messages of the popular culture”. In may ways awareness of that influence of culture is part of the challenge of parenting.

Comment on “My Child Has a Lot of Anger in Him” by medical assistant

medical assistant — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 09:44:32 +0000

Keep posting stuff like this i really like it

Comment on Girl fails in her attempt to sail the globe–or does she? by CNA License

CNA License — Fri, 16 Jul 2010 18:18:52 +0000

nice post. thanks.

Comment on “My Child Has a Lot of Anger in Him” by Bill Frederick

Bill Frederick — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 17:20:25 +0000

Once again you are on target. I have come to think, in fact, that role modeling is the most important aspect of parenting that we as parents can provide.

Comment on Girl fails in her attempt to sail the globe–or does she? by cna training

cna training — Fri, 09 Jul 2010 03:23:03 +0000

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Comment on Girl fails in her attempt to sail the globe–or does she? by cna training

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Comment on Sometimes Punishment is the Problem by Bill Frederick

Bill Frederick — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 18:02:18 +0000

These are great points. I think it further complicated because smoking in fact seems a rebellion against adults, in general, and sometimes specifically vs. parents.